Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Sometimes sex hurts because my boyfriend's penis is too big. What positions or strategies can work with this?
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Friday, May 3, 2013
How do you get your man to be more romantic?
When it comes to romance, it is clear that women tend to complain they don't get enough in their relationships. I hear time and again from the women I speak with that their guys either aren't interested in being romantic or just don't know how to do it. Here are a few tips for how to get more romance from your partner.
1) Praise him when he takes any small steps towards being romantic. Most women I know take more of a critical approach to getting their needs and wants met. They will tell their partner what he is doing wrong rather than encourage what he is doing right. This leaves guys (and gals) feeling like they can't win even when they are trying. So when you see him make an effort towards being romantic, acknowledge it by being thankful. Control your urge to say "I wish you would do this more often," which is a complaint. Instead say, "I love that you arranged this romantic dinner." When you encourage small efforts, you will get more over time.
2) Recognize that guys show romance differently than girls. I have had couples in my office who both reported they were trying to be romantic. However, since they did it differently, they did not recognize their partner's efforts. Each of you can make a list of things you find romantic and compare them. Then pick things from each list to do for each other. The key to this exercise is it do things on your partner's list to show romance and vice versus. You be responsible for trying things on your partner's list, and have your partner be responsible for trying things on your list.
3) Take initiative to create the romance you desire. Too many women get caught up in the idea that it is the man's job to romance the woman. Romance is a two way street. If you want want more romance, you can put the effort in as well. Light candles when you have dinner together. Put on some music and ask to dance in the kitchen. Set up a date night where you both get to dress up and have a night on the town. When he participates in the romance, thank him for spending the time with you.
4) Make it a priority. In the end, romance is a habit like any other habit. You can make a schedule for date nights, come up with daily rituals or even pick out a book that you try new things from weekly. It doesn't matter how you do it as long as you each feel taken care of.
To make an appointment, contact Angela Skurtu at 314-973-7997 or visit www.TherapistinStLouis.com. To purchase tickets to an event, Angela is hosting Sex, Wine and Chocolate on June 28, 2013.
1) Praise him when he takes any small steps towards being romantic. Most women I know take more of a critical approach to getting their needs and wants met. They will tell their partner what he is doing wrong rather than encourage what he is doing right. This leaves guys (and gals) feeling like they can't win even when they are trying. So when you see him make an effort towards being romantic, acknowledge it by being thankful. Control your urge to say "I wish you would do this more often," which is a complaint. Instead say, "I love that you arranged this romantic dinner." When you encourage small efforts, you will get more over time.
2) Recognize that guys show romance differently than girls. I have had couples in my office who both reported they were trying to be romantic. However, since they did it differently, they did not recognize their partner's efforts. Each of you can make a list of things you find romantic and compare them. Then pick things from each list to do for each other. The key to this exercise is it do things on your partner's list to show romance and vice versus. You be responsible for trying things on your partner's list, and have your partner be responsible for trying things on your list.
3) Take initiative to create the romance you desire. Too many women get caught up in the idea that it is the man's job to romance the woman. Romance is a two way street. If you want want more romance, you can put the effort in as well. Light candles when you have dinner together. Put on some music and ask to dance in the kitchen. Set up a date night where you both get to dress up and have a night on the town. When he participates in the romance, thank him for spending the time with you.
4) Make it a priority. In the end, romance is a habit like any other habit. You can make a schedule for date nights, come up with daily rituals or even pick out a book that you try new things from weekly. It doesn't matter how you do it as long as you each feel taken care of.
To make an appointment, contact Angela Skurtu at 314-973-7997 or visit www.TherapistinStLouis.com. To purchase tickets to an event, Angela is hosting Sex, Wine and Chocolate on June 28, 2013.
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