Can you overuse a vibrator?

Vibrators alone cannot become addictive. However, if used consistently in place of a romantic relationship, one could be accused of vibrator overuse. In these cases, a partner is usually asking for more physical intimacy to be shared rather than relying on solo-sex with a vibrator.

Vibrators can be an excellent enhancement to your love making. For many women, the vibrator can allow orgasm to happen when it previously was not occurring. It is important to find ways to incorporate your partner in the use of a vibrator. 

If you would like to introduce vibrators, talk to your partner about what he/she would be interested in. Next, stop by a sex store or visit a website and research some of the possible tools available. For people who are confused by the whole process, host a pure romance party to learn about different vibrators and how they are used.

Finally, make a plan to introduce the vibrator into your next sexual experience. Be clear with your partner about what feels good and what does not. Try it out on yourself and on your partner as well. After the experience, communicate about what you would like to see happen again and things that felt uncomfortable.  Adjust your use the next time based on what you discussed.

The important thing is to use a vibrator as a piece of your sex life rather than the primary tool you rely on to use. It is important to find a variety of ways to use your bodies and your fantasies as a means for achieving pleasure and possible orgasm.

For more information or to make an appointment, please contact Angela Skurtu at 314-973-7997 or visit www.TherapistinStLouis.com.