What are the benefits of kissing? First off, there are not
many people we are allowed to kiss in general. It is a special gift you share
between the most intimate people in your life. Some people only will kiss their
partners. So, if you have a person you can kiss, take advantage of it.
Secondly, kissing releases chemicals in the body (oxytocin) that help
us to feel close and connected. There are nerve endings in the lips that fire
when we kiss, especially when we kiss passionately. If you want more sex, you
need more passionate kissing. Thirdly from a biological perspective, kissing may provide
some protection against bacteria and infection. Your body develops immunity
through exposure to each other’s germs.
How do you vamp up your kissing? Start by researching the
types of kissing out there. There are different ways to vary things up. You can
vary the pace, wetness, pressure, location (meaning both where in your
environment and where on your body), and length of time.
Some people prefer long wet kisses with lots of tongue
curling while other s prefer softer, delicate kisses with just a hint of
tongue. There is no perfect way to kiss, but it is important to learn how to
kiss in different ways that make both you and your partner feel good.
A fun game to learn with a partner is to play “Kiss me the
way you like to be kissed.” In this game the first player kisses the second
exactly how player one would prefer to be kissed. Player two will then mimic
this kiss on their partner. Next you switch roles and repeat the exercise
learning about player two’s favorite style of kiss.
If neither you, nor your partner knows what types of kisses
you like, then do some experimentation. Start with a long peck while embracing.
Next, try short, quick pecks around the neck or on the lips. Notice the
difference and make a note of what you like.
When the tongue is added, start with a slow exploration of
your partner’s mouth. Start out shallow and see how your partner responds.
Explore their lips with your tongue. Some people bite very lightly on the
bottom lip. If you choose to use your teeth, be careful and stick with nibbles
rather than hard bites-unless your partner requests it or shows interest.
You can also explore their mouth deeper as the kissing
progresses. Be careful not probe the mouth uncomfortably deep and leave room
for breathing every now and again. About halfway into the mouth can be a pretty
good depth. The tongues can roll across each other, or take on a light sucking.
The best part is to mix things up-you don’t have to stay on one motion for the
entire time.
Finally, find a way kiss daily whether or not sex is
involved. Kissing improves intimacy and helps get the juices flowing. It also
shows your partner you desire them.
Angela Skurtu owns St. Louis Marriage Therapy, LLC, a
private practice that focuses in couples and sex therapy. For more information
or to make an appointment, contact 314-973-7997 or visit www.TherapistinStLouis.com.
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