To continue, another factor in healthy sexuality is shared
values. Both people involved have discussed what they enjoy and
have agreed upon what sexual acts they will engage in as a group. This is often
a work in progress as people change across time. Sexual interests and desires
change. The expectation is that couples bring up these changes and discuss ways
they can either incorporate new sexual ideas or compromises they are willing to
make.
Another important factor is non-exploitation. Sex should not
be used as a punishment or means for manipulation. For example, if one person
is not in the mood, they can ask to wait for sex, and their partner will not
punish them by being mean, ignoring them, or basically making life miserable.
However, it is common for people to feel rejected, and it is okay to express
hurt or disappointment. The key idea here is that being hurt is NOT a justification for rude behavior.
Other factors to consider with sexual exploitation include prison
populations or people in one-down relationships. A prisoner cannot consent to
sex with a prison guard because the nature of the relationship is exploitative. In
a similar vein, therapists are not to have sex with clients and teachers are not
supposed to have sex with students because there is a power dynamic that
prevents clear consent.
Another important factor in healthy sexuality is mutual
pleasure. Both parties are enjoying the act even if their goals are different.
For example, a woman may have sex to feel close to her partner, while her
partner may be having sex because he likes the feeling of orgasm. Both goals
are fine as long as each person is enjoying the experience.
Finally, both parties are protected from any unwanted
pregnancy or STDs. Other than these above factors, most sex acts in between are
perfectly fine. Sexuality is a gift that can be embraced and enjoyed. It
does not matter whether a person has a strange fetish, or weird sexual interest.
These days, the internet is providing a great opportunity for people with
unique sexual interests to find one another. Ultimately, do what makes you
happy within the context of healthy sexuality. If you are not sure, do some research or talk to a sex therapist to learn more about healthy sex.
To make an appointment, contact Angela Skurtu at 314-973-7997 or visit www.TherapistinStLouis.com.
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